Benjamin Franklin once said, “In this world nothing can be said to be certain, except death and taxes.” I believe what is also certain is change. We will have to deal with changes in our lives – all our lives.
Change is certain, change is inevitable, change is all around us.
There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens:
A time to be born and a time to die,
A time to plant and a time to uproot,
A time to kill and a time to heal,
A time to tear down and a time to build,
A time to weep and a time to laugh,
A time to mourn and a time to dance,
A time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
A time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,
A time to search and a time to give up,
A time to keep and a time to throw away,
A time to tear and a time to mend,
A time to be silent and a time to speak,
A time to love and a time to hate,
A time for war and a time for peace.
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Whether we like it or not, our lives are constantly in change. Nothing stays the same for long.
Changes can be big or small, chosen or happen to us, exciting or fearful, easy or difficult. Before we dive into our reactions to change and how to reset our default responses, let’s first discuss the three types of changes so we can identify these in our own lives.
Changes we choose: Even when we enter into change voluntarily, the adjustment is not always easy
Some changes we voluntarily take on – a new haircut, going away to college, getting married, taking a new job. However, even when we walk voluntarily into a change, it can still be difficult.
For example, you may choose to have a baby, but no one is ever truly ready for the change that a newborn brings into your life. Some people manage that change quite seamlessly, while others will struggle to adjust to this new life, even mourning the old life that’s changed so dramatically.
Changes that happen to us: The changes we didn’t ask for are often the most difficult to accept
Other changes happen to us – illness, death of a loved one, loss of a job. These are the unexpected changes, unplanned and unwanted. These are the ones we resist kicking and screaming, try to avoid, try to ignore and hope they go away, the ones we wish had never happened to us.
No one wants to lose their mom to cancer at a young age, have their child to be diagnosed with an illness, or lose their job and face the financial burdens that follow. Yet, God can redeem even the tragedies of this life to produce something good.
God-driven changes: Allowing God to change us is when we really start living
Changes we choose and changes that happen to us aren’t the only types of change. There’s one other type of change – God-driven changes. When we open our hearts to God and allow Him to work within us, He may lead us to changes in our lives.
These can feel like changes which happen to us, but there are steps we have to agree to take. I believe these are their own category of change – and an important one to recognize and accept in our lives.
[reminder preface=”Question: “]Which type of change are you facing today? How are you responding?[/reminder]
[callout]This post is part of the “A Better Change” series. For more information on this series and to find related posts, click here: A Better Change Series – Overview[/callout]